Money Mind Meld
Being financially independent in today’s age is becoming more about personal gain than social welfare. It has turned out to be an effective tool in boosting one’s ego and retaining superiority in whatever communal sphere a person belongs to. Observe it for yourself; you will notice whether it’s a household or an office, money gives you a comparative advantage above all. People literally consider you as a torch bearer of wisdom, based on your financial status. The ironic aspect is that the more you earn, the more virtuous you are considered to be. To add insult to injury, the sad part is that monetary strength has overshadowed character with startling ease. And by character, I imply love, kindness, empathy, character, morality, respect -you name it.
“Money, like any other force such as electricity, is amoral and can be used for either good or evil”
Martin Luther King
How can money in its anthropomorphic form be so parochial and judgmental? No pun intended, but haven’t we, as humans, been observed to behave that way? I wonder how money has adapted to the characteristics of a Homosapien. Well, technically speaking, that cannot be the case as science has no evidence of such unique phenomena till date. I believe it’s we humans who treat money so ruthlessly. Somehow, we are really good at defining the purpose and fate of those around us, be it inanimate objects – money for example -or our fellow beings. To be more precise, we extend this behavior to almost everything we are sharing this God’s green earth with. A true shame to bear the brunt of such injustice, right?
However, justification can be birthed through a logic; we drive money insane just to keep ourselves sane. Ego, by default reacts to any and all threats and hence moves to safeguard the sanity of human mind. This treatment of money gives us confidence, authority and freedom as a byproduct; ultimately ensuring mental soundness. To put it aptly, we manipulate money as ‘means’ to achieve safety as an ‘end’. Not a bad bargain especially when we are engaged in interaction with an entity devoid of any feeling and emotions. Irony strikes yet again. We lose exactly what we pursue, along the way. Yes, we do gain Confidence, Authority and Freedom but at the trade off of our peace, love, kindness, empathy, character, morality and respect. We ended up compromising our “Humanity” & “Human relationships “for the sake of mental security and safety.
In short, we -rational beings in the end -compromised our mental health knowingly or unknowingly, by choosing a wrong way towards a right end. We rightfully deserve to be studied as a case for striking the worst bargain in the entire natural order. If nothing else, this observation will add up to the piles of the countless theories of Sociology and Psychology explaining human behavior. However, instead of building confidence, financial insecurity has led to the bouts of desperation and anxiety. Instead of excitement to pursue future endeavors, it has nurtured feelings of hopelessness, screaming to our senses that the hurdles of life are insurmountable. Financial Independence has hence translated into more of a mental health issue We are under a certain illusion that happiness is synonymous with paychecks. But, when reality strikes, we come to terms with the fact that it is in fact we, who have made a fool out of ourselves. One of the unique curses of money is uncertainty of its future status and as humans, uncertainty has always made us anxious. Be it of our existence in the universe or the validity of our everyday relationships.
Instead of slaving away in finding the path to our unique purpose and identity, we are stuck slaving away in an office somewhere to make ends meet -concomitant with an incentive to satisfy our narcissistic tendencies. This money mind meld has forced us to live a life of necessity rather than of purpose & joy. It takes courage to break out of these generational curses and encourage each other to live a happy life instead of a successful one. Because in the end, all we have is our sanity.
Linked below is the short video lesson by Sir Asad Zaman on the topic ” Value of Money”.